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Robert Bly's 'Iron John' Is Still Turning Heads.
By Gregory McNamee
Iron John: A Book About Men, by Robert Bly (Vintage Books).
Paper, $12.
A NEW KIND of animal stalks the land these days. If you
listen closely, you can hear its strange call, chest-thumping
roars alternating with keening wails and abundant sniffles. And
if you look carefully, you'll doubtless soon spot one, for they
clone faster than jackrabbits. This new critter is now all around
us, and the poet Robert Bly has provided a field manual to aid
in its identification.
The animal in question is the New American Male (1990s), a dusted-off
Gary Cooperesque stalwart (1950s) who's not afraid to cry in public
(1970s), a thirtysomething hybrid (1980s) who combines the sensibilities
of Alan Alda, John Wayne and Tom Hanks. He travels in packs. He
can often be found in woodland retreats, pounding on tom-toms
(1960s) and weeping over his failure to connect with his taciturn
father. Our shell-shocked Boy Scout likes to call himself a "wild
man," to doff his cordovan wingtips and gray Armani suit
for a weekend and roam the dark forests, barefoot, T-shirted.
Robert Bly, the poet and translator, discovered at the age of
65 that he, too, was a wild man. In Iron John--its title
is taken from a European rite-of-passage folktale that can be
found in the pages of the Brothers Grimm and, in far too many
permutations, in the book under review--Bly laments the rise of
the modern pasty, malleable, "soft man," pounded into
shape by the commissars of modern feminism, still inclined to
use phrases like "let me share your space," "I
can relate to that," and "I feel your pain." These
men, Bly observes, "are not happy. You quickly notice the
lack of energy in them. They are life-preserving but not exactly
life-giving. Ironically, you often see these men with strong women
who positively radiate energy."
No more mamby-pambyism, Bly urges. No more unseemly displays
of deference and accommodation to these iron maidens. In his cri
de coeur, he instead demands that all real men find their
"interior warriors" and make themselves fit to take
up long-rusty Excaliburs and sally forth into battle.
For inside every man, it seems, there's a King Arthur screaming
to get out. Bly aims to spring him through a series of pop-myth
recipes for success, complete with archetypal kings and queens,
dragons, naiads and dryads, caverns, and sweat lodges. To read
Bly's pages, you'd think Joseph Campbell had returned from the
dead for one last fling with the gods.
But, Bly urges, let us not allow our Arthur to degenerate into
some modern Conan. In other words, we'll do the ordering at dinner,
thank you, but on occasion we'll also let our dates select the
topic of conversation.
Befuddled men are everywhere legion, evidenced by the overflowing
shelves devoted to self-help panaceas and New Age mysticism, to
cures for every psychic ailment real and imagined, to every social
risk. Iron John is meant for these survivors of the I'm-okay-you're-okay
generation, but it's nowhere near as obnoxious as the run of the
literature, and Robert Bly does have his points. Few thoughtful
people, after all, would argue that these are happy days, and
there are far too many men--and women--out in the heartless world
who lack any emotional anchorage whatever. All of us would do
well to learn how to grapple with our emotions more effectively.
If becoming "wild" and taking up the sword of the samurai
within yields a bit more joy in men's lives, if it contributes
to some moment of peace in the war between the sexes, then, as
silly as Iron John seems, Robert Bly's earnest essay will
have done its job.
But I suspect that it will not, and that the New American Male
will soon be driven into extinction, to be stored in history's
attic next to platform shoes and mood rings. The interested reader
would do better to borrow Iron John from the library and
invest the 12 bucks in a copy of Muddy Waters' blues stomper "Mannish
Boy," a sleeveless T-shirt, and maybe a six-pack of Jolt.
Suitably armed, he can then head to the woods to commune with
his inner nature--if, that is, he can find a moment's solace among
the forest-haunting hordes of the brooding new beast.
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